‘Adults want the destination, while children want the journey’
Each year during the Parent Programme graduations we have heard some inspirational words from the parents who speak at those events on behalf of their respective groups. 2017 was no different!
With her permission we are publishing what Kate Dixon said at her Graduation in St. Joseph’s NS last week (28 April 2017). Well done to all the parents who spoke at the various graduation events. Kate’s speech represents all the parents who have completed the programme.
Hello my name is Kate
This opportunity to speak for the group is an honour.
On the first day of my journey on the Incredible Years Programme I felt a little bit nervous and started to question whether I should have been here or not, but I can confidently say today it was one of the best decisions I have made for both me and my child. I’m sure the rest of you all can agree and feel the same.
At the beginning of the course we were asked to look at the areas we would most like to try and improve. I found for myself that the problems I wanted to tackle were: not sharing, having to win or be first at everything and also for me to be the best parent that I could possibly be.
We were set tasks every week to do with our children and I have learned a lot during these past few weeks including child-directed play, persistence coaching, effective praise and encouragement and so much more. I feel like both me and my son have a better understanding of each other now and our bond is stronger than ever because of this course.
Listening to each and every member of our group share their stories every week and seeing you all achieve your goals has made me feel less isolated and that I am not the only one struggling. As Pices from our group said ‘you have to take the time to learn how to drive a car – step by step you’ll eventually get there’. This also goes for learning who your child is and what his/her personality is! It was nice to hear everyone’s opinion on the different topics. Dermot came out with a beautiful phrase while discussing the benefits and barriers of playing with your child that I think we should all remember. ‘Adults want the destination, while children want the journey’.
The different backgrounds and cultures really brought a lot to our group and opened our eyes to different ways of doing the same thing. As each week passed I was overjoyed to see the improvements not only in myself but from everyone in our group and to see you all bursting with confidence made me proud to be a part of something special.
I have met the most amazing and strong people during my time here and I’m happy to say, you are lifelong friends. You really are an ‘incredible bunch of people’. On behalf of myself and the rest of the group we would like to thank Annemarie and Rosemarie for taking the time out of their busy lives to run this programme. They are such kind and caring people and always made each and every one of us feel welcome. They are not only facilitators, they are our mentors, our role models and most of all our friends. Their hard work and patience have not gone unappreciated quite the opposite. You truly are not one but two in a million.
Time is so precious and goes in the blink of an eye. One day you will carry your child on your hip then set them down, and never pick them up that way again. They will hold your hand to cross the road, then never reach for it again. Don’t forget there is a last time for everything so please take the time to get to know your child, play with your child, kiss and cuddle your child and most of all be happy with your child.
So on that note I would like to thank you all for this incredible experience and I would highly recommend this programme as it really does work.